Lesson of the Week

Worthwhile: I am a person of importance and value

You are a person who is worthwhile.  You are important and valuable.  So, what might keep you from feeling worthwhile, important, and valuable?  The word worthwhile is quite often used to denote two concepts:  cost and benefit.  In accounting cost is the outlay and benefit the income of being an entity.  When the balance is in the “red” or losses exceed gains, the business could go “under” or be forced into bankruptcy.  Likewise when people believe their life is costing more than benefitting, setbacks are greater than achievements, or penalties offset rewards, they may no longer feel worthwhile and think they are mentally bankrupt.

This was true of a woman who decided that she was costing society more than benefiting.  She did not feel worthwhile, important, or valuable, so  she decided to end her life.  She was saved by a miraculous distraction coming from a bright star.  A star sapphire caught the sun and shone in her eyes, waking her to a new view of herself and her mission.  The flashing effect is called Asterism – when parallel, needle-like inclusions are oriented and cut as a domed cabochon and shine in the light as a six-pointed star.

Her “ah ha” moment was realizing that she was like the star sapphire.  Her needle-like inclusions were the innate qualities of soul.  Her light was maintaining an awareness of her own qualities – a mental enlightenment of self worth.  She knew she had witnessed her own star quality before.  It was the twinkle in her eye when she was doing good – feeling the virtue going out of her self while helping others.  The mental darkness had come when she was listening to other’s demeaning criticisms, letting herself be bullied, or thinking she was worthless. She stopped dying and started living by perceiving herself as worthwhile and having the potential to do good.

There are many others that have fallen into the mental darkness of thinking they are not worthwhile — that the cost of life exceeded the benefits.  This dark state can come from being unenlightened to one’s own innate potential, achievements, rewards, worth, importance, value.  This sense of mental bankruptcy can happen early on in life. For instance, an innocent child might skip up to a caretaker and ask, “See what I made?”  The child is really asking, “What do you think about me because in essence I am the painting?” Here are some typical adult answers:

a) “Stop bothering me.”  (The message:  You are not worth another person’s time.)
2) “Your sister’s pictures were much better.”  (The message:  You are not worth as much as someone else.)
c) “Look at how much paint you wasted.”  (The message:  You are not worth used paint.)
d) “Look at the mess you made!”  (The message:  You are a worthless mess.)
e) “Go clean your room.”  (The message:  You have no worth until you please me.)

No matter what the reason, if you are in the dark about your worth, importance, or value, you can become enlightened and see your own innate “star” quality.  In fact, “stardom” comes by shining the light of understanding on your own potential.  When something untoward happens, you will find the benefits always outweigh the costs because your perception will make the appropriate adjustments and adaptations necessary to mitigate this negative experience.  Through this simple enlightenment, you will find that you are worthwhile, important, and valuable.

Quote

You are an extremely valuable, worthwhile, significant person even though your circumstances may have you feeling otherwise.

- James Newman, Mathematician

Activity

Activity  Balancing the Worthwhile Seesaw

Materials:  Paper and pen or pencil

Time:  Ten minutes to write and ten minutes for each person to discuss

Instruction:

1.  With the sheet of paper in lengthwise or landscape orientation, draw a one-inch triangle at bottom, middle of the page.  Over the triangle, draw a line across the page so the picture looks like a seesaw or line with a triangular fulcrum under it.

2.  Label to the left of the fulcrum and under the line:  Cost (Negative).  Label to the right of the fulcrum and under the line:  Benefit (Positive).

3.  On top of the line on the “Cost” side of the fulcrum, make some boxes and in each one write down a cost of being you.  These are the negative costs of being you (e.g., don’t have enough money, worry).  On the Benefits side make boxes above the line and write in each one a benefit of being you.  These are the positive benefits of being you (e.g., hardworking, help others).  You can also do this activity using your mission costs and benefits

4.  Discuss your results by answering the following questions:
a) Which side has the most weight -- costs or benefits?  If the balance is on the side of the costs, what can you add to the benefits side to balance off the scale?
b) How does this relate to your being worthwhile, important, or valuable?
c) What are the five most important ways you are worthwhile, important, and/or valuable.

Affirmation

I am worthwhile so I can …… We’d like to hear your story about being a person of value.

6 Comments

  1. I always was interested in this topic and still am, thank you for
    putting up.

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  2. I salute those people that have had the relisation that they are unique an special. For to much time I saw in the mirror a person that I couldnt accept. I blamed the feelings of non improtance on the actions of people I interacted with, They were just normal folks, an i felt they looked at me an saw the person I could see in the mirror. wheteher they did or didnt is no longer important, I am finding a better imaige to which I will notice the good productive woman that I am fighting to let live. thanks for the good an inspiring story.

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  3. PS…my birth stone is a Sapphire so it hit home with me 🙂

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    • You are a person of worth. You are precious and this world needs you. There are so many opinions and beliefs that say only certain people are or are not valuable. But no matter what your status, job, income, education — whatever — you are valuable and important. There is something about you that is unique and special. Express that virtue and feel your “stardom”!

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  4. I love this! I have been really struggling lately and am at the same point the woman in the story was at. I have not been feeling valuable, important or worthwhile and reading this make so much sense to me. Thank you so much for posting it!

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  5. Maureen Jordan 08/22/12
    11:02 pm

    Many years ago, I figured something out: not everyone will like me. WHOA! This was a huge revelation! As a kid, I was a people pleaser”. I learned to be whatever the other person wanted so that I would be “liked”. The problem is that there are all different kinds of people, including some that were just plain mean. I was a klaidescope of pieces that needed to change on a turn to get a transient acceptance with no permanence. I was always trying; and failing over the long term. They just didnt like me. And that made me feel bad, because I knew the person didnt really like the real me. The real me was hidden. So, I decided to be myself instead, and suffer the consequences . I learned that I was able to be free to enjoy people who liked “me”. It was very relaxing! I developed really good friendships, based on love and respect. Now, in my adult life, I can “be” with many kinds of people in work or church or wherever. I am myself. Some people are closer to others, not me. Some people may not even like me. I am fine with that. I have good friends and coworkers that I am free to be me. And, they are free to be them. It is free-ing and it works for me. I am happy, because I can live authentically. And really, it is so much easier!

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